THE EVOLUTION OF SLEEP
What to do right now, based on what you see
Settled and relatively comfortable
Flexible when something small changes
Able to interact without becoming overwhelmed
Things may be going well β and you may still find yourself waiting for that to change. After enough difficult bedtimes, even a calm evening can feel a little fragile.
Your child seems to be managing the evening well right now. That doesn't necessarily mean the day has been easy or that bedtime will automatically go smoothly. But it gives you a useful opportunity to notice what's helping β without changing things just because they're going well.
Keep the pace comfortable rather than adding extra activity just because things are going well
Give simple, predictable information about what's coming next
If something is working, resist the urge to improve or change it tonight
Notice what was different about today so you have clues you can try again
Becoming a little less flexible
Needing more reassurance, repetition, or predictability
Movement, voice, or behaviour beginning to change
A calm child doesn't necessarily need you to do anything differently. Sometimes the most useful thing is simply noticing what's already working.
What was different about today? The pace? The demands? The transitions? The amount of sensory input? Your connection with them? You don't need to figure it all out tonight. You're simply looking for clues you may be able to use again.
Want to understand why calm evenings sometimes stay calm β and sometimes don't?
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