Day 3:

The Best Belly Breath Technique

for Deep Relaxation

The Best Belly

Breath Technique for

Deep Relaxation

+++++ Research tells us this is the fastest breathing method to engage the vagus nerve-stimulating and encourage relaxation. Combine it with as many of the other techniques as possible+++++++

Hi, [name]!

Today, we're venturing into the heart of relaxation with a technique that holds incredible transformative power: deep belly breathing, specifically, the physiological sigh.

It's no exaggeration to think of belly or diaphragmatic breathing as your body's general tranquilizer. Why, you ask? Because long, slow, deep belly breathing signals to your body you are safe. It’s not natural to take long, slow, deep breaths when running for your life.

The magic behind deep belly breathing isn’t just its profound relaxation, it’s also because it can be done any where at any time for zero cost and zero inconvenience. It’s the ultimate tool in the regulation toolkit. As your child practices this fundamental technique, they'll discover the incredible capacity of their own breath to reduce physical and emotional tension.

We’ve already discussed one form of diaphragmatic breathing in the handout: Basic belly breathing where, when lying down, your child uses a toy or their hands to see and/or feel the rise and fall of the belly. Now, we’ll add a tweak to make it even more effective.

Research has shown, the most regulating or relaxing form of deep breathing is called the physiological sigh. To get a visual, as you read the description below, picture a sobbing overtired, and upset toddler when they are very upset and trying to tell you something. That will help you to remember it. We do this naturally to regulate.

Action Plan: How to do the physiological sigh.


  • Take a deep breath in through your nose. Then, top it up with another inhale. Hold for a second. Exhale through your mouth, opening your mouth only slightly as if you were exhaling through a flattened straw.

  • The exhale should be long. Because the opening is small, you can be forceful, pushing your belly button towards the spine. This will add to the vagus’ activation.

  • That’s it! Easy peasy and effective. It only needs to be done one to three times to activate the vagus nerve.

  • Teach your child and have them do it just before it’s time to sleep or at any time during the day when things appear to be getting out of control.

Tomorrow: Day 4: A breathing technique for the kinesthetic kiddo